HELP!!!! What should I do about my man. How do I get him to respect and love me again???

My boyfriend has been furious with me and is a control freak, I was going to go down on him and I told him it would be really good, and he said, "yeah right." He asked me to try to put it in my mouth or swallow and so I did for the first time. So when he woke up he was a complete jerk because he sobered up and remembered we were arguing the night before, and I started crying and didn’t understand why he was being so horrible to me, so I said how can you say all of these mean things, I did what you asked and tried to keep it in my mouth, which I have never before, he replied, "Well I just had you do that so you would shut the **** up." It was his birthday today, I gave him a present, which he so rudely opened the day before and sent me a e-mail saying thanks, I sent him flowers at his work, I made him breakfast, I packed him a lunch for work...and he was yelling the whole morning for me to stay away from him and not to talk or touch him.